“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” Henry Ford
Are you afraid of success? Is there something you want to pursue but feel you can’t?
In this article, we will have a look at what the fear of success is, how it can stop you from reaching your goals and more importantly what you can do to overcome this fear.
Being successful means different things to different people and this shouldn’t come as a shock. Whilst one person might think to reach the top position in their department is a success, another person might consider earning a certain figure from home is being successful. This difference between people is what makes this a much bigger issue and one that isn’t black and white like many believe.
There are a limitless number of differences between people and the perception of becoming successful is exactly the same.
With all the different views of success and the way different people perceive you is a huge obstacle for so many of us. Is there something that you want to pursue but you feel that you can’t. Maybe you feel that you are being stopped from moving forward?
Does this sound familiar? Could it be that you are afraid of succeeding? It’s more than possible.
Many people have and live inside their comfort zone and irrespective of their dreams and desires, keep themselves bound and shackled to it to avoid discomfort and failure.
Fear of failing is quite simply that; being scared to fail. Whilst fear of success is somewhat similar, it has a distinct difference being that they are so comfortable in their current situation that they want to continue to live the life despite actually hating it. Often, you may find the person is afraid of success out of a fear of how to handle the fame or wealth it brings.
What if we are judged for succeeding and reaching our goals and dreams? What if the success is short lived? Far too often we focus on the negative outcomes and put hypothetical obstacles in our way. What if there was no-one to judge you? What if you weren’t so harsh on yourself? Succeeding would become so much easier the moment you stop being your own worst enemy.
With all these what ifs and self-sabotaging thoughts, the easiest way to move past this fear is by strategising and forming a plan of action to take daily. A big part of getting to where you want is making tiny steps consistently. The time for you to get after your goals and dreams is now.
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the second best time is today”
If you have been putting your goals off because you are concerned about what will happen when you get there, stop, whatever happens, you will gain a wealth of knowledge from your experiences and learn valuable lessons to which you can take on with you later in life.
- Positive Affirmations
Use positive affirmations daily. It might get overlooked but planting the seeds each morning is a great way to fire up your mentality and give it a boost in the right direction. For a list of great affirmations, you can start using right now, follow this link.
- Take the time to find out your desires.
This might seem like an obvious suggestion but really taking the time to learn who you are, your goals but more importantly why is a huge step to moving forward. How can you expect to reach a target if it doesn’t line up with who you truly are? For more information on working what your ‘why’ is, follow this link.
- Get to terms with who you are and run with it.
So often, I hear people say “I’d love to go travel like you do” or “I really like what you are doing, but I’ll never be able to do it” The hardest thing for me doing this, is not doing it and trying to explain to people can be quite difficult… For the full story, click here.
- Choose your network wisely.
A huge part of moving forward and getting to where you want is picking who you spend your time with, if you have negative people in your life then chances are you will pick up their traits. Learn how to identify toxic people in your life and get rid of them by clicking here.
- Be prepared to leave people behind.
This is very similar to #4, but it’s focusing more broadly on you as an individual rather than the people around you. You need to separate yourself from the crowd and need to want to move forward.
Ever heard the crab mentality? A bunch of crabs stuck in a bucket and as soon as one tries to escape, the others pull it down in order to get that inch closer.
We all know people who are like this and more often than not, it’s those closest to us who are the worst for it, focus on the previous steps, create a laser like vision and work towards your goals. Being afraid of success is one thing which can easily disappear the moment you have created a plan and started to take action.
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