What do I mean by this? Quite specifically, are you allowing yourself to do, be or have the things in life you really want?
Have a think about the question and what your answer is, if your answer is ‘no’, then ask yourself whose permission you are waiting for & why?
This world we live in is so focused and driven to following ‘the rules’, allowing other people to tell us how we should be living our lives & we can’t be blamed for it. From an early age, we’ve been conditioned to ask for permission with anything. From school in childhood to college to university then finally on to the workplace.
Have you ever stopped to think why so many people have that unsatisfied feeling with life and why we are unable to achieve what we really desire?
We need constant permission and authorisation to go after the things we want, we need to hear that it is okay before we consider doing it.
Do you not think this is crazy or bizarre?
I had the issue that I needed approval from other people to go and do anything and I found the process of beginning not to care one of the hardest yet most liberating things I’ve done. To read about my journey further, I recommend reading readingFailing into success…
To give you and idea…
- I used to make my choices based on people’s opinions.
- I was afraid of people passing judgement on my decisions.
- I’ve always had an urge to do something bigger and greater but was afraid that I wasn’t ready or that I didn’t have the right experience.
I’m not entirely sure I was aware of my behaviour at the time, but it’s fair to say that I was genuinely in a cycle of waiting to receive approval or permission to be, do or have the things I wanted in my life.
You want to know the real reason why I was allowing this to happen to me? It’s the same reason people are still allowing it to happen to them…
- We are either scared or insecure.
- We are scared to take any personal responsibility.
- We are scared of experiencing failure.
- We are insecure because we have been made to believe we have nothing to offer.
- We are insecure because we think we are unable of providing value.
I totally understand it…
Life is going at a rapid speed, the future is constantly uncertain and our fears and insecurities are our rational thought processes to keep us out of harm’s way.
Okay, so maybe you aren’t an expert in the field you want to venture in…. But you want to know something?
You are always good enough to start.
And trust me, you can only get better as you keep doing the do.
I get it. It’s scary… It’s scary to go after what you want. What if you don’t make it? What if you fail miserably? What if you never get it moving?
Want to know what is even scarier?
- Choosing not to go after what you want.
- Not making it in a corporate job you have little interest in.
- Failing miserably in a corporate job you have little interest in.
Besides, even without that, ask yourself questions like:
- What if what I wanted to achieve could really work?
- What if I could actually accomplish my dreams?
- What if I could get what I want out of life?
You soon start to realise that although this can be a scary thought, it can also be extremely exciting.
When we start to move forward, casting aside any fears, learning to overcome the obstacles that stand in our way, we will very quickly gain momentum that will be near impossible to get rid off.
As we continue to grow, we will always be that much closer to our end goal.
Maybe, (and this is only a suggestion) it’s time for you to get started and give yourself all the permission you want to get after what you want to achieve. Honestly, the only person holding you back in life, the only person responsible for your outcome in life is YOU.
If you decide to make that one vital decision, the decision to be yourself and take full responsibility for every single aspect of your life, it will all just fall into place.
I am setting you a challenge right now. A challenge to go after something you’d like to do, be or have in your life.
The only person able to change the rules for your life is you. Start changing them now.
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